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How do we reframe?

 

How do we reframe?

Many of you may already know this concept of reframing.  In the mental health world, there’s this concept of reframing where you take a moment to reframe how you’re viewing the situation.  Reframing comes from a therapeutic technique called Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) where you recognize and identify our automatic thoughts and replace the thought with more helpful or balance thoughts.

For example, if everything feels as if it is falling apart in your life one can say, “Why do bad things always happen to me?” or “I will never obtain happiness” because our perspective is not helpful we may tend to become disempowered.  On the other hand when things are falling apart if you said, “this is an opportunity for me to expand my capacity as a human being” or “things are testing me to make me stronger,” you may feel more empowered to tackle the struggles head on.  This doesn’t mean you have to put a positive spin on everything like Chris Traeger from the show Parks and Recreation (SPIN MOVEEEE!!)

This means that when stuff happens, you take the moment to think; okay, why am I being emotionally derailed right now.  Why is this triggering me?  For many people it’s because fear and lack of control take over and go down the rabbit hole of I’m not  ________ enough (smart enough, beautiful enough, wealthy enough etc.).  It’s about shifting our perspective and reframing the situation.

Reframing the situation does not start with “at least” (i.e. at least I’m heathy, at least I have my family, at least I have it better than others.”  No.  Reframing means 1) taking a moment to think and reflect how we’re feeling 2) being in the present moment 3) thinking about how we can shift our perspective on the situation.  More and more I’m recognizing that many people (including ourselves) are not present, and actually quite numbed out.  In my case it manifests in numbing out and avoiding hard things.  It is a hard thing to always catch yourself, but the more we can catch ourselves the more we can continue to move forward.

Have You Used a Butter Slicer?

Have You Used a Butter Slicer? Hi everyone.  I hope everyone is safe and doing well.  This might be very basic information for those of you who are cooks.  However, last year I ran into this kitchen tool that transformed my life.  THE BUTTER SLICER.  Basically, you take a stick of butter (usually 1/2 cup… Continue Reading

Architecture That Inspires and Helps Others

Architecture That Inspires and Helps Others I read a story on the 2022 Pritzker Prize Winner (known as the Nobel Prize for architecture) Diebedo Francis Kere from the weekly Buddhist news paper called World Tribune (May 3, 2022).   Mr. Diebedo iFrancis Kere is from Burkina Faso and as a young child, he was often in… Continue Reading

What is Creativity?

What is Creativity? I read this article written by Kate Jackson from a magazine Social Worker Today called “The Mindful Social Worker: How Mindfulness can Help Social Workers Practice More Creatively.”  In the article, they have found that mindfulness can be linked to creativity. What do you think of when you think of the word… Continue Reading

What Are Your Dreams?

    What Are Your Dreams? What are some of your dreams you want to accomplish?  What if money, time, resources were all not an issue and you were given the chance to pursue what you wanted.  What would that look like?  I think for many people they probably had dreams as children and as… Continue Reading

Self Care: What Rejuvenates Your Soul?

Self Care: What Rejuvenates Your Soul? If you’re in the mental health or helping field; you’re always encouraged to do “Self-Care.”  When I go to trainings, we’re constantly informed how important self care is and how wonderful self care is.  The truth is we’re all very good at talking about it but no one really… Continue Reading

Hello, my name is Harui…

Hello, My Name is Harui… When I initially started working as a social worker in South Los Angeles, I was working with youth who did not want anything to do with mental health.  Many of the youth refused to talk to me and would call out, “how do you think you know how to help… Continue Reading